You Don’t Need to Prove Your Worth by Fixing Everyone Else’s Problems

You don’t need to prove your value at work by jumping into a last minute meeting to offer input.

You’re mentally spending 4 hours a day on other people’s work…

Talking your coworker through how to respond to client feedback.

Helping them edit a deck before their presentation because you "don't want them to look bad.”

Jumping into a last minute meeting to “offer input”, but really…it’s to make sure nothing goes off the rails.

That “quick” 30-minute check-in that could honestly be 10-minutes, turns into a 90-minute therapy session twice a week because you feel ‘responsible’ for how your new colleague feels…even though you’re not their manager.

That turns into you not logging off until 7 PM instead of 5…so you miss your kid’s hockey game.

Which turns into skipping your 6 AM yoga class the next morning because you’re exhausted.

Which turns into ordering Indian takeout for the fifth night in a row.

Your habit of stepping in to pick up the slack, even when it’s not your direct responsibility, comes from a genuine desire to help and contribute because you’re a good human.

You care deeply [and I love this about you].

But here’s what I see over and over again with high-performers while coaching them and working at high corporate levels myself…

Your problem-solving is actually hyper-focused, dysregulated people-pleasing.

Your desire to be a “team player” is spilling over into fixing what isn’t yours to fix.

And this is the root of your high blood pressure and racing mind.

You tell yourself:

💫“If I don’t support them, no one will.”

💫“If I don’t double-check it, it won’t get done right.”

But the truth is:

You’d be far better off letting people rise to meet their own challenges and simply only doing what is yours so that you can log off at 5 PM and make it to your kid’s hockey game as promised or take a walk to shake off the day instead of carrying it into date night with your partner.

You don’t need to do more to prove your worth.

You need to unlearn the habit of carrying what isn’t yours to carry so you can focus on your true worth that goes beyond your identity and the role you play at the office. 

When you do this, you will notice the pervasive fear that you can't shake that you will get fired and lose everything also effortlessly disappears.

If you’re done being the emotional backbone of your workplace and constantly carrying what isn’t yourself so you don’t have the capacity to hold what IS yours - that’s what I help you do.

Schedule a consultation with me to explore how we can work together.