New Job, Same Burnout: Why the Cycle Keeps Repeating
You know that constant thought that pops up 10 times a week…
“I should just quit and find another job.”
Well, here’s the thing…
Your next job will feel exactly the same (or even worse) unless you address what’s underneath your patterns of overworking and overdelivering without being asked, and ultimately the belief that your value comes from being the one who holds everything together and keeps everyone else happy.
If you’ve been told, “we couldn't do it without you,” yet you haven't been given a raise in 3 years, I’m talking to you.
I worked in HR and have been coaching high performers for over 15 years, so I see this pattern all the time.
People quit their job thinking they’re escaping the problem, but because they haven’t changed anything within themselves the same problems persist.
The next job?
The same patterns persist..
😩 You’re still checking your email on PTO “just in case something blows up” and saying “yes” to one more “quick favor” because you don’t want to seem unhelpful.
😤 You’re still going home irritable, drained, snapping at your partner because you’ve got nothing left because once again you stepped in to finish a deck because the one your colleague made was "awful."
😒 You're still feeling bitter that you do twice the work and get half the recognition.
Same burnout and emotional exhaustion, just a different office and new Slack channel.
Over time, that turns into feeling irritated because you care so much when others don’t. And bitter because you keep showing up at 110% while others seem fine giving 70.
And that doesn’t change with a new company or title.
It changes when you stop needing to fix everything and let the chips fall where they may.
When you redirect that energy - the “I’ll just do it myself” energy - back toward your own wellbeing, boundaries, and purpose…that’s where your freedom starts.
That’s when you stop trying to earn peace, and start creating it.
Ten years ago, this was the conversation I needed to hear. The real reason I was burned out, exhausted and switching jobs had more to do with my beliefs and patterns and had very little to do with my boss or the company I worked for.
Hiring a coach and learning these exact lessons is why I have the life and business I do today - one where I can close my laptop by 5 PM without guilt and trust that things won’t fall apart when I go on a European vacation for two weeks.
If you don’t change your patterns,
if you don’t develop the identity of someone who doesn’t need to fix everything,
the next job will feel exactly the same [or worse].
If this hits home, this is the exact work I do inside my coaching - helping you stop overworking, stop rescuing and finally feel safe putting yourself first. Schedule a free consultation to learn more about how we can work together.