You Are Not Broken
Stop calling yourself, and other people, broken.
For real though, please just stop.
Every time I hear someone say “I’m broken,” or “Humans are broken,” something inside me tightens because there is nothing spiritually empowering about that phrase.
This feels like a massive psych op and one of the biggest collective gaslights.
We aren’t meant to permanently identify with our wounds and forever say we are broken. Yes, we experience trauma and hold pain. But absolutely none of that makes us fundamentally damaged.
In emotional distress, yes. In need of Divine intervention and a deeper connection to God’s Grace and ourselves, yes.
If we are made from the image, consciousness and intelligence of God, then you are literally built perfect and whole. How could a soul like that ever be “broken”?
The human experience is all about unraveling our layers. Unraveling layers of conditioning, survival identities, ancestral patterns and old emotional weight so that we can step into the highest and best version of ourselves.
And here is the uncomfortable truth.
When you call yourself broken and buy into this story, you unconsciously keep choosing experiences that confirm that identity. You get stuck in a perpetual cycle of needing to ‘fix’ because your nervous system will continuously look for evidence to match the story you’re telling yourself. That’s not empowerment, that’s self abandonment disguised as humility.
There’s a difference between “I’m broken” and “There are parts of me healing.” One keeps you stuck and the other keeps you open. The journey is not about fixing yourself, it is remembering your wholeness and removing all the layers that convinced you that you needed fixing in the first place.
So, please, if you use this language, pause. Feel into what it reinforces. Tune into your body when you say it.
Maybe try phrases like:
“I’m a work in progress and everyday I’m choosing to be a better version of myself.”
“My past has shaped who I am today, but it doesn’t define me.”
Language shapes your identity. Identity shapes reality. And reality follows belief.
Remember you are more energy than matter and this is how energy works.
You don’t need to fix yourself. Self-compassion and Love are the way, not the story you’re broken.
I love you